Can you be loyal to yourself? Can you be steadfast and loyal to your body, heart and soul during good times and bad?
If you commit to being loyal to yourself then you stay present and kind to your authentic self WHILE you are feeling fear, rage and despair - WHILE you are feeling wild cravings - WHILE you want to act out in destructive ways.
You are no longer loyal to destructive behaviors your want to act out. Nor are you loyal to being resigned to accepting negative feelings abut yourself.
This quote came to me about a week ago, and it still reverberates. Perhaps you know the feeling? It's when I feel a tiny pinprick of an opening that I feel certain leads to vast or profound new awareness.
our ability to be steadfast with ourselves.
No matter what comes up - aching bones, boredom, falling asleep,
or the wildest thoughts and emotions -
we develop a loyalty to our experience.
- Pema Chodron
The first part is familiar and part of what I know, believe and share. The last four words articulated more awareness for me. If you are loyal to yourself and loyal to your experience simultaneously you undermine periods of fear, guilt and unreasonable desire.
Loyalty to our experience. The phrase gives us a place to stand while we experience what we experience. That helps us learn and understand our experience while remaining true to our authentic self. Journalling and mindfulness practices do that. So does meaningful time with your psychotherapist. So does sitting quietly with yourself and watching your breath. The power of the phrase rests in the word "loyalty."
What do you know about loyalty?
- Where do you have or see loyalty in your life?
- Who or what is loyal to you.
- How and where are you loyal?
- Can you spot misplaced loyalty in your life?
- Can you see where you might need more loyalty for your own experiences
- What stories come to your mind about loyalty?
Let you mind range over the concept of loyalty until it is real for you. Then bring it to yourself so you can be loyal to your experience and remain steadfast to your authentic self during your emotional storms.
Please write in the comment section what loyalty means to you and how you can be loyal to your experience.
Picture: Army Good Conduct Medal (It's what we earn in recovery. :) )
- The eagle, with wings spread, denotes vigilance and superiority.
- The horizontal sword denotes loyalty,
- The book represents knowledge acquired and ability gained.
- On the reverse, the lone star denotes merit.
- The wreath of laurel and oak leaves denotes reward and strength.