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Help Yourself - Coping Strategies
Saturday, 23 May 2009 16:00

At some point in your recovery work you struggle to truly stop bingeing and are on the edge of success.

But you are tempted.  No.  It's much more than that, and you know it.  You feel caught in a tractor beam that relentlessly draws you to the binge.

How can you stop it?  How can you pull out?  What can you do before you are completely drawn in and lost again in the food?

First, of course, you need to be involved and committed to your recovery work so you have your therapist and your support system in place.  Recovery from an eating disorder requires psychological work.

Then you tackle the question of how to stop a binge from starting.

The urge to binge has a lot to do with your natural energy that has no place to go.  Anyone who has been in a binge or a compulsive eating episode knows that hunger for food has little or nothing to do with the activity.

So when you stop bingeing, your natural energy is bubbling up with no place to go, until now.

Jung said, "wash the dishes."  Buddhists say, "chop wood and carry water."  Vietnamese say,
"Sweep your hut, light a candle, read a book."

In other words, develop habits to hold on to your energy that used to go to a binge. Then channel it in a positive direction.

First, this is difficult to do. You feel like you are walking against a current of glue.  You drag yourself to a task where do something physical and necessary.  I used to weed the garden and trim bamboo. (Southern California).

Then you find interests you never had time to develop because you were so into your bulimia or other eating disorder. Start off gently, but don't be surprised if

your little interests turn out to be strong and authentic desires of your heart and soul.

When you find those interests, you put your energy there. Some people go back to school and develop first or new careers.  We're talking about a lot of energy. Some people discover how much they care about their animals or their garden.  They put mental, physical and emotional energy into caring for them better.  And this leads them to new people, new organizations, new relationships and even a new vocation.

Good luck! And let me know your answer to the question:  what do I do instead of going on a binge?

Here are a few suggestions for starters:

  • walk the dog
  • read a book
  • write a letter
  • take a shower
  • vacuum your house
  • scrub down the bathroom
  • clean out your car
  • clean and organize your closets
  • pay your bills
  • go to a park
  • go to a museum
  • get away from triggers and do something different that you like.
  • sketch a tree
  • write a letter or a poem or a short story - or just write what is immediately around you right now.
  • go to the library or a library you've never visited before.
  • put some energy into any task you've been postponing.

Please feel free to add to this list!

Last Updated on Friday, 01 October 2010 22:32
 
Comments (1)
1Monday, 18 January 2010 11:03
Vicki
For me, I am often tempted to binge to avoid doing some responsible adult task that I think I "should" be doing. However, I have an endless list of To Dos and I never give myself permission to relax or indulge in "frivolous" activities until all my work and chores are done.

The conflict comes because sometimes I just don't have the energy or motivation to do one of my "shoulds" at a particular moment, but I won't allow myself to do something pleasurable instead, so I rebel against the whole thing by binging!

Thus I have to be careful about what I choose to do instead of binging. I'd love it if I could channel my binging energy into organizing my closet, but it might be that organizing my closet is what I'm tempted to avoid by binging!

On the other hand, if I'm avoiding a work project that I really do need to work on, it feels wrong to do something nice for myself like taking a bath- then I feel like I'm rewarding myself for procrastinating. Of course, if I binged I wouldn't be doing my work project either- AND I'd be wrecking myself physically and making me less effective at work later in the day, or the next day.

So I've come to the conclusion that pretty much ANY activity is better than binging- and I need to be kinder to myself in choosing not to binge.